Enduring the anguish of betrayal and sexual disloyalty ruptures the sacred bond of coupleship. Devoting time and energy to mend the wounds and sorrow demands a daily dedication; the outcome of this steadfastness is the revitalization and rebuilding of trust.
Renewed Restored is here to support you along your road of healing with the following:
1:1 Couples coaching for those in relational repair after sexual integrity issues & partner betrayal
Healing Hearts Course (partnership with Choose Recovery Services)
Healing Heart Digital Course (Coming Soon)
Renewed Restored Couples strongly emphasize establishing the essential foundation of safety and stabilization. The partner who betrayed actively strives to lead a life of integrity, enriched with empathy, to break free from unhealthy patterns.
We equip you with vital relational abilities encompassing effective communication, emotional awareness, and empathy. We recommend a tried-and-true approach to building empathy skills, following the ERCEM method, to rekindle the connection.
At Renewed Restored, we are committed to advocating for both partners, ensuring that each individual is informed about resources that will contribute to their healing journey.
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We understand the deep pain, confusion, and hurt that can arise from betrayal. Our aim is to create a safe and nurturing environment, where partners can feel empowered to make their own choices as they navigate this difficult journey. We are here to support you every step of the way.
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Developing and learning healthy leading skills for the journey, expecting to establish strong empathy skills. Healing happens best in a safe community. Connection to God, self, and others is the antidote to shame and addiction. Understanding how to appropriately own his actions, developing abilities to implement connection, create safety for the partner, and display authentic intimacy. Learning to initiate wholehearted living by reducing shame responses and becoming a person with healthy integrity and sound character. Including a weekly 30-minute Renewed Restored 1:1 accountability coach outside couples session. The accountability coach will help hold him responsible and remain on track pressing forward to become the man God has called him to be. Help.Her.Heal workgroup is highly recommended as supplemental to learning empathy skills.
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Couples 1:1 coaching begins when the team comes together, surrounded by team support, gain greater insight, and grows forward—embracing the couple with a 1:1 coach, a 1:1 accountability coach for the one with sexual integrity issues, and skills and attuning support group for him HELP.HER.HEAL is highly recommended. Our model provides structure, and the couple's amenability grows through this combination of adequate team support.
Couples 1:1 coaching begins best by laying a foundation of truth—a guided formal disclosure with the help of Renewed Restored coach trained in an effective and safe disclosure process. Often, partners don't know what is true or not valid anymore. The full disclosure lays a foundation of truth where she can begin to trust her intuition and make informed decisions moving forward. While this may be difficult for it is crucial to trust-building and truth-telling.
Practicing transparent honesty must be consistent for the partner to begin trusting again. As a couple, they learn to set healthy life-giving boundaries, support each other through crises and triggers, understand how to achieve a healthy relationship and build the layers of authentic intimacy. As safety is regaining, partner can verbalize needs. Through a consistent and daily commitment to the process, the couple can recreate a healthy connection and heal together.
Our mission here is to see both process and heal through the stages and impact of partner betrayal and sexual integrity issues so they can grow and walk confidently into who God has called them to be.
Renewed Restored Couples
Many couples find themselves searching for a path towards reconciliation and the restoration of their relationship after betrayal, only to discover that there isn't a universally "best route" available to them. Despite trying various strategies and, in some cases, investing years in seeking help, they often feel stuck. Some approaches have included focusing on individual recovery for extended periods, but this typically doesn't lead to a renewed and restored relationship after betrayal.
Renewed Restored Couples takes a proven approach, one that fosters a more remarkable and healthy outcome by guiding couples on a healing journey together.
In the past, the approach to addressing sexual integrity issues often advised individuals to focus solely on their recovery. This meant that the partner trying to cope with the trauma was left to navigate it alone, with limited access to healing resources related to the impact of their significant other's behaviors and choices. In the end, as the person with the issue achieved long-term sobriety, recovery efforts concentrated solely on that aspect, and ways for the patner to support recovery. Unfortunately, this approach sometimes led to the partner being mislabeled as a "co-addict" or "co-dependent," leaving them without a support system or resources to address the complexities and wounds they experienced. As a couple, they didn't have the opportunity to collectively procesto process the numerous losses they had endured collectivelyer trauma is crucial for moving forward in a healing manner.
Many couples in the aftermath of sexual integrity issues often struggle to find effective help. Traditional approaches sometimes prioritize addressing past traumas and relational issues before dealing with the immediate wounds caused by betrayal, leading to added complexities.
Alternatively, some opt ONLY for separate recovery paths, with one partner focusing on sobriety and recovery while the other addresses personal needs and healing. However, this approach can create a disconnect when they reunite as a couple.
Research suggests that couples healing together often experience more significant growth. Both sexual integrity issues and partner betrayal are rooted in attachment-based traumas. Building authentic connections with God, oneself, and each other through transparency and empathy can lead to individual and relational healing.
Renewed Restored Couples coaching provides structured support, enabling couples to establish safety, empathy, and truth. They can progress through healing stages together, increasing their chances of success in rebuilding their attachment relationship.
It's crucial to understand that partner betrayal can trigger traumatic distress, with recurring thoughts attempting to make sense of the situation.
At Renewed Restored, we navigate the three stages of trauma recovery. If both partners are willing, a couple's plan is developed for those working towards reconciliation. However, we also acknowledge that not all marriages can continue.
We've witnessed remarkable transformations in marriages, healing and renewing after betrayal from sexual integrity issues. Our approach focuses on relational capacity, authenticity, and connection, providing a tailored roadmap for potential success.
Rebuilding and revitalizing your marriage after discovering sexual betrayal is entirely achievable. The aftermath of this revelation often ushers in a world fraught with pain, heartache, and shattered trust. If you find yourself here, in search of hope and a solution to this crisis, know that the journey toward repair, recovery, and restoration may seem intimidating and frightening. However, deep within you, there exists a small spark of willingness to forge authentic intimacy and mend the fractured covenant.
The restoration of your marriage becomes a real possibility when both spouses share this willingness. Optimal healing for each partner, both individually and as a couple, is most effectively attained when the journey of recovery is undertaken together.